On the inside mostly. Later, as a young adult, I learned to work on that. Still it persists in some small ways.
Found among Mom's things by my brother...
Given and now given back.
Sometimes, giving might simply be the shared acknowledgement of a personal truth. A quiet exchange. I am thinking that Creating might be just a very natural form of giving. Expressing. Expressing self. So that another might know you. Know you are OK. Or even not. For a mother or a father it is quite a gift to know a child will be all right. Mom and Dad have birthdays that are very close. Right around now. And we three kids, being here together, just going, being OK, well that's a great gift this time around I think.
We miss you.